1. You are not alone in your marriage, and you should not be alone in your worries. Your husband has a hand in this too and needs to address this as much as you do.

2. Definitely spend more time around other people of color, and not only African-Americans. The birthday party "thing" has to do with your being a white mom. If you were a black mom with a white husband, your kids would be invited to black birthday parties. GET TO KNOW THOSE MOMS.

3. Are you sure you don't want to give DC another try?