How did I miss this when you first wrote it? My husband of 40 years is white. An interracial relationship is quite different when the woman is black. My husband has been sensitive to racial incivility since he was in single digits, although he lived in an overwhelmingly white place, so much of our journey was not a surprise to him. However, like you, he has been an intimate observer of how America treats those it doesn't value. My hat is off to you for sharing what is certainly a sensitive topic. Congratulations on your 20+ years!