Kerala, may I share this with you? I am black and have been married to my white husband for nearly 38 years. He "gets it." The events I describe never happen when he's around--he's my "entry ticket" into white people's civilized behavior, but woe to me if he's not around.

https://medium.com/afrosapiophile/five-daily-disses-that-demonstrate-white-privilege-1e979c4f9af7