Or Black in America, or Brown in America, or Asian in America, or speaking a second language in America. Not only do white adults feel that it's their pleasure to humiliate you, but white children also learn from their parents to distinguish who deserves regard from who doesn't. To be other than "white" in America is to be told that you will never be good enough. We have to teach ourselves not to believe that vicous lie. "White" doesn't mean "good."