So, are you a black person who has experienced such an offense or not experienced such an offense, or are you a white person guessing and dissing someone else's lived experience based on your own mistaken beliefs? I'm betting on the latter. We will always be at an impasse. You believe in the rightness of your opinion, despite what evidence others may share to the contrary. I believe in the validity of my experiences, which are often substantiated by my white friends and relatives, although they would be valid even if they were not. Shalom and Salaam.